We have all been there, in a space of brokenness, uncertainty, no drive, and lack of confidence. When faced with a situation that nearly knocks the wind out of us and we are unsure if we are going to make it. We all have heard the infamous saying, “Time heals all wounds,” and I began to question does time heal all wounds the answer is yes and no. Prayerfully, the 5 steps to healthy healing that I share bless you as much as they have blessed me.
I believe that time can heal ALL wounds if we are effectively utilizing that time in a healthy way. Sometimes most of us suppress the pain and believe because we are no longer in that situation that we are healed. This is interesting, just because we are no longer in that painful situation or painful circumstance does not equate to healing. If we are not properly taking actionable steps towards healing then it is only a matter of time before we are faced with having to deal with that pain.
A person can be no longer directly connected to the source of pain but still have the residue that the pain has left behind. Normally “out of site, out of mind” is the true reason we feel we are healed. When in reality all it takes is a slight resemblance of that painful situation and we are brought right back in to the thoughts that were associated with the unresolved pain.
As I have matured, I realize that there were moments when I was operating from a place of pain. I felt a heaviness because I was attempting to carry to much. The more I opened my heart to the Lord the lighter I began to feel “For my yoke is easy and burden is light.” Matthew 11:30. I am confident in knowing that as I continue to have faith that all things can be done through Christ Jesus and be obedient there is nothing that can’t be overcome.
Here are 5 steps to healthy healing that helped me to begin to chisel away at the wall I had built for protection:
1. Go to God and confess your TRUE emotions, thoughts, and frustrations.
“There for confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed..” James 5:16
If you do not have someone you trust journal, seek counseling, or just simply pray (prayer is communication with the Lord).
“But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds, declares the Lord.” Jeremiah 30:17
2. Forgive the offender, forgive the offense, and forgive ourselves. Forgiving someone means we no longer hold that offense against the offender and forgiving ourselves means we release what we had in mind for our future which allows us to continue to experience the Lord’s goodness .
” And forgive our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” Matthew 6:11
“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:14-15
3. Feel each emotion and release it. When you have time to truly unpack your emotions don’t hold back. Feel the anger, feel the pain, feel the frustration. After you sit in those feelings release it. Let the tears cleanse your soul.
4. Replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts. You are the creator of your reality and your mind is the soil where seeds are planted. By replacing that negative experience/thought with one that is easier to process it begins a psychological rewiring of brain.
” Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind..” Romans 12:2
“…we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:5
“…whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things.” Phillipians 4:8
5. Begin to love yourself again. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Even the bad is used for our good no matter how traumatic it is/was.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5
“God can do all things no purpose of His can be stopped.” Job 42:2
These 5 steps to healthy healing allowed me to forgive and move forward in life. It has allowed me to be free and to trust God in it all. “The Lord will fight for you. You just keep still.” Exodus 14:14. Although it is not the easiest thing to do all the time, it will be worth it in the end.